In times of need, One will often look for the guidance and support of others to help make it through. This help can be in the form of emotional support, or even just some affection after a long day. We look for the comfort of a shoulder to cry on, or a friendly ear to listen to our sorrows. We are comforted by the fact that someone is willing to let us be vulnerable, weak or even let us break down in the safety of their presence. We trust them with our feelings, and are assured that they are safe with them. Sadly, I feel that this support hurts us even more. One can become dependent on this support, and can no longer live without it.
Do not become dependent on someone ELSE to comfort you during hard times. Do not let yourself become comfortable sharing your weaknesses, or fears with somone only to have them hold it over you. Do not become so inundated by your pain that you can’t help yourself. Become stronger for yourself, by yourself. Let the person you run to for help be the person you see in the mirror.
Its like you’re constantly swimming to keep your head up. Some days the water is calm and you have the energy to keep swimming. But some days there’s a storm and the waves are so big you don’t know if you can keep from going under.
You know you can’t swim forever, and you know you’ll eventually sink to the bottom. But each day you keep swimming because you don’t want anyone to worry about you. You don’t want to worry your family or friends and you’ve been swimming for so long it’s second nature.
Sometimes you can talk about stuff with friends and they’ll understand. Those are like drift wood, helps a little but they take on too much water and can hardly float for themselves after a while.
You try not to think about all the things that would happen when you go and how your loved ones would suffer. Those thoughts make you swim harder, those thoughts are the sharks that circle you.
Then finally, you know that if you keep swimming long enough you will eventually reach shore and you won’t have to swim anymore. Those are the goals and hopes that I use to remind myself that good times are possible and that my life will get better.
It’s easy to let negative people monopolize your time – even when they’re not around you. Don’t let them in your head!
It’s easy to spend a few hours dreading seeing or spending time with a negative person. Combine that with more moments of venting to a friend or co-worker, and you’ve just given that person hours of your creative time!
Don’t allow negative people to steal your time and energy. Don’t complain about people you don’t enjoy. Don’t give them any real estate in your peace of mind. Instead of spending your downtime thinking about how much you dislike that person you have to work with, turn on the radio and listen to music that reduces your stress or work on your favorite project.
Take back your power by limiting the amount of time you spend talking about, thinking about, and worrying about unpleasant people. Seek out positive people and positive vibes instead.
Have you ever had that feeling of frustration when you couldn’t come up with anything new? I had been struggling with my attempts at coming up with some new visual styles in the past few days. So I had been getting down on myself for a while before trying something new.
I had never heard of “Morning Pages” before today. So, wanting to try anything that would get the creative juices flowing again I wrote my first three pages. These were nothing groundbreaking, thoughts and affirmations that I felt at the time. Nothing was off limits, and nothing was stupid or lame. What I wrote didn’t matter. What was most important was the act of writing.
This helped my mind get into the “Mode”, if you will. After writing these pages I felt okay, and had cleared my head of all self-doubt. Before I knew it I was working on a new project, and had formed an idea in my head.
So I recommend that you try writing a few pages when you have time in the morning. This was something that I am happy to have found, and I plan on trying this every morning for the rest of the week. I will plan on posting the final products here for everyone to check out.
Until next time, keep up the good work and stay inspired.